2014 has been great to us SO FAR over here, I hope It's finding you all amazingly well also:)
I wanted to talk a bit about being the "super mom of the year" pressures that all of us mom's have felt at least a time or two before.
I'm having a pretty relaxing day today which has left a lot of room for
"thinking" time <--- that isn't always a great thing but today it's been awesome!
So ok I'm always trying to outdo myself ......LIKE...... always... I'm never satisfied with the level of "super momism" that I am at.... always striving to be better. not ALWAYS the best idea....
- gotta cook more "from scratch" meals -- it's OKAY to roast hotdogs and smores
- gotta clean more more more---leave the dirty dishes alone
- need to organize EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE---- it'll just be a mess again by tomorrow
- make sure I empty EVERY dirty laundry basket---Just wash more than they can wear in a day ;)
- go to EVERY (and this is a big one for me) sporting event, function, performance, honor roll assembly, EVEN EVERY practice, that my children are involved in:) ( WE HAVE FOUR CHILDREN BTW) -- It's ok to let Daddy take a turn by himself every once in a while:) as long as he has a video right;)??
- make sure the hubby is happy---- ( yall know him, he's always happy, yet I think that he needs to be happier SMH:)
- FIX EVERYTHING, EVERYBODY, & PREVENT EVERY BAD THING THAT THE WORLD HAS IN STORE FOR MY CHILDREN, MARRIAGE, OR FAMILY FROM HAPPENING....... ------- you can't do it ..... you just can't TERESA....... TRUST GOD:)
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- ON...........................
- PRESSURE TO BE PERFECT FOR THEM.......... ( In their eyes I already am:)
When I stopped to think about all of this and much much more I remembered that some of my all time favorite memories have been created when my house was a disaster, or I left the dishes in the sink to run down the hall and stood outside my children's rooms when they weren't aware and listened to the sound of their laughter or watch them giggle with their daddy (the little things ya know) It suddenly occurred to me that when they are grown they won't remember how shiny the floors were.... Would they even remember what the laundry room looked like.....?
The pressure to be perfect is enough to make you, both their's, and your own worst nightmare .........
SO I started slowly but surely doing more and more little things with the kiddos and thought "oh well I'll just let the house go.... who cares right?? What I realized was this...... MY HOUSE IS CLEANER NOW THAN IT WAS BEFORE:)... it just is....Almost like when you were young and you knew that you wouldn't be able to play unless you did your homework..... so you got it done right?? RIGHT:) I get more things done when they aren't here ( and some things just don't get done) which leaves tons of time for them:) seems simple right but you don't realize you're in neck deep until you're gasping....
I have realized that I can still be a super mom..... and that it's totally fine if my cape gets lost every once in a while, has holes in it, or stains and wrinkles...... just means you're using it right??? LOL
I still fuss at my children, or for a nicer phrase, guide them, ;) but I think they'll appreciate that one day as well:)
Moral of the story....... Life isn't slowing down, the work will always be there.. You won't find anything memorable at the bottom of a sudsy sink.. Investing in your family will never come from everyone drowning in a tv, iphone, ipad, or any other technology device, or believe it or not, from drowning yourself in a good long book.....read later;).... Give your cape a rest and go play with your kiddos!!! I PROMISE YOU WILL FIND THE BENEFIT MUCH MORE SATISFYING THAN A CLEAN HOUSE THAT THEY WON'T REMEMBER ANYWAY:)
I hope someone's spirit will be lifted by my own "struggle" <----- Poor me;) Now if you'll excuse me.... I must go get ready to play with my kiddos:)
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